STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES
STOP Domestic Violence is a NYS certified program assisting victims of domestic violence, 24 hours a day. For help, please call our hotline at 1-518-563-6904.
The main office is located in Plattsburgh (Clinton County) with a satellite office in Malone and Tupper Lake (Franklin County) as well as Westport (Essex County). Clinton County offices are open from 8:30am to 4:30pm, and Franklin and Essex Counties are open 8am to 4pm, Monday through Friday. Behavioral Health Services North, Inc. (BHSN) and the STOP Domestic Violence program are dedicated to the creation of a safe, secure environment for those seeking services with us.
It is the policy of the STOP Domestic Violence program to maintain and promote the highest quality of services to survivors of domestic violence regardless of their actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender, gender identity or expression, health status, race, color, religion, age, marital status, socioeconomic status, national origin, veteran status, immigration status, predisposing genetic characteristics, or disability. The STOP Domestic Violence program prohibits harassment of participants based upon any one of the above-mentioned protected classes.
Our Goal: STOP Domestic Violence is the voice of victims and survivors. We are the catalyst for changing society to have zero tolerance for domestic violence. We do this by affecting public policy, increasing understanding of the impact of domestic violence, and providing programs and education that drive that change.
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- 24-hour hotline: 1-888-563-6904
- Crisis intervention
- Safe apartments for temporary shelter
- Individual and group supportive counseling
- Educational materials and presentations about domestic violence and its effects
- Temporary childcare during office visits
- Advocacy with law enforcement, medical services, local departments of Social Services, etc.
- Information and referrals to other local, state and nationwide domestic violence services
- Information and referrals regarding Human Trafficking
Confidential Safe Housing
Confidential safe apartments are available for those in need and eligible for temporary shelter. Safe apartment residents can take care of immediate needs and assess long range plans for a safe environment while utilizing the support and assistance of staff.
After business hours, volunteers staff the hotline with staff providing back-up coverage. To volunteer, individuals must complete a 12-hour training on domestic violence and its effects, dedicate a few hours a week for at least 6 months, and attend volunteer meetings. If interested please e-mail STOP Domestic Violence for more information.
What is Abuse?
Abuse may begin with behaviors that may easily be dismissed or downplayed such as name-calling, threats, possessiveness, or distrust. Abusers may apologize profusely for their actions or try to convince the person they are abusing that they do these things out of love or care. However, violence and control always intensifies over time with an abuser, despite the apologies. What may start out as something that was first believed to be harmless (e.g., wanting the victim to spend all their time only with them because they love them so much) escalates into extreme control and abuse (e.g., threatening to kill or hurt the victim or others if they speak to family, friends, etc.). Some examples of abusive tendencies include but are not limited to:
- Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
- Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
- Accusing the victim of cheating
- Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members
- Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
- Controlling every penny spent in the household
- Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
- Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
- Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
- Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.
- Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)
- Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
- Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children
- Threatening to hurt or kill the victim’s friends, loved ones, or pets
- Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons
- Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with
- Forcing sex with others
- Refusing to use protection when having sex or sabotaging birth control
- Pressuring or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol
- Preventing the victim from working or attending school, harassing the victim at either, keeping their victim up all night so they perform badly at their job or in school
- Destroying the victim’s property
DONATE ITEMS FROM OUR DONATION WISH LIST!
Many survivors of domestic violence have been forced to leave their homes because of abuse and arrive at our safe havens with just a suitcase. You can provide clothing, supplies and other essential items they will need to rebuild their lives free from violence.
* Please note that all items must be new or lightly used
How to donate:
- Shop our wish list on Amazon!
- Drop-off donations to 22 US Oval – Suite 218, Plattsburgh, NY 12903 Monday – Friday, 8:30am to 4:30pm, no appointment necessary!
Due to limited space, we can only accept the following items:
Urgent needs – items must be NEW
- New twin size bedding, pillows, blankets, sheets, etc.
- Toiletries – shower gel, shampoo/conditioner, tooth paste/brushes, deodorant, face wash, etc.
- Cleaning supplies, disinfectant wipes, sprays, etc.
- Toilet paper, tissues
- Paper towels
- Laundry detergent, fabric softener, dryer sheets
- Dish washing liquid, sponges, dishwasher pods
- Trash bags, zip-lock bags
- Non-perishable food, coffee, tea
- Basic women’s underwear and bras
- All types of hair care products, etc.
- Gift cards and gas cards (Stewart’s Shops, Target, Walmart, grocery stores, etc.)
On-going needs – items must be NEW:
- Colder weather clothing for all sizes, adults & kids, all genders – sweat pants and yoga pants
- Clothing for toddlers/children ages 1-8 years old (pants, shirts, socks, pajamas, etc.)
- Boy’s pants and shorts (all sizes)
- Baby, kids, teen, adult pajamas (all sizes)
- Plus size women’s underwear (sizes 16-22)
- Clothing for older children sizes (10-16) boys and girls
- Baby products: diapers (all sizes), pull-ups, wipes, formula, pacifiers, etc.
- Journals/notebooks/adult coloring books, art supplies of all types
- Blank sketchbooks without lines
- Water bottles
Welcome a family to their new home!
Please consider sponsoring a family rebuilding after domestic violence as they transition into their new apartment by collecting items for a Welcome Kit.
Questions about donating goods or how you can help a family in need – CLICK HERE!
Need help guiding our STOP Domestic Violence services?
Those interested in learning more about our STOP Domestic Violence services should contact our program supervisor.